Encouragement or Coddling??

What is the difference between Encouragement and Coddling?

Is there a system where you can encourage, listen and comfort someone with a problem.  Then jump start them into rectifying the situation.  Can you ask “So what are you going to do to deal with this issue?” or  “How do you think the best way to handle this is?”  Can you partner with them and help get them on the road to healing?

At what point do you walk away from someone that is sucking the life out of you and isn’t willing to take any responsibility for where they are in life? Or take any of the steps to move forward to make their life better?  How many times do you sit next to a friend and hold their hand telling them that it will be ok, over the same situation.

At what point do you become a crutch instead of an encourager?

Published in: on October 7, 2008 at 10:21 pm  Comments (4)  

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  1. Man, that is a hard question.

    I would say that when the person keeps doing the same things and doesn’t heed your advice and counsel, that it’s time to have a Come To Jesus with them. It’s uncomfortable and can be awkward, but if it doesn’t happen, you will keep going down this path.

    Just my thoughts.

  2. When boundaries are blantantly disrespected over and over. Let your “yes be yes” and “no be no.” When support becomes enabling an unhealthy behavior or compromising your health.


  3. That’s tough. I agree that it depends on what they are doing to help themselves.

  4. Levi…

    Ditto to all the women above, this is a VERY hard question.
    A very hard boundary.

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