I Let Other People Control My Feelings!

Do you ever give other people power over your Feelings?
 

I’m not talking about the authority figures in your life.  Your Spouse, Parents, Employer, Supervisor.

I am referring to the people in your life that are your “friends”, your “Been There, Done That” Aquaintence that knows everything, your Confidant that you thought you could rely on to be there for you, not just you always being there for them.

I have been quiet this week.  For a few of reasons. 

One reason is that I am getting ready to leave for Hawaii this weekend.  So that takes planning not just for Craig and I and our luggage but also for the kids and grandpa and their needs while we are gone. 

I have also been fighting one of my infamous tired/pain attacks that no doctors seems to be able to figure out.  So I take my medication and try to just smile.  ( 🙂 ) 

Another of the other reasons is I believe that my Heavenly Father has been teaching me a lesson in friendship.  I had two things happen this week that were eye openers. Covering one extreme to another. 

I had an important issue that I needed some advice on and I emailed a friend about it.  We set up a time to talk over the phone.  I called, she answered, we talked.  She made me feel like she cared.  She didn’t just mentor but she was my friend first.  We laughed, we discussed good and not so good with our children and we discussed our up coming trips with our husbands. (My trip being way better 😀 ) She also made sure to help me with what I needed advice on.  This was the Good Extreme! 

Now the other Not So Good Extreme…I believe that I have allowed a couple of people to take advantage of my friendship.  My spiritual gifting runs strong in encouragement.  I love encouraging people!  Especially Women that have low self esteem.  We are all beautiful.  God loves us all.  I think that one thing that I am suppose to do is help lift people up.  When you lift people up it ususally means that you are at the bottom of the pile.  I am ok with that most of the time but can you please take your military boots off before you stomp on me.  This week I crawled out from the bottom of the pile just slightly bruised. 

It makes me want to just keep to myself.  I use to have a saying that I don’t really use anymore but some days it is tempting…It goes like this.  “It sucks to be you” I remember when I could say that and walk away.  What a work God has done in me.  I am just not sure I will survive the bruises sometimes.

So to answer the original question……..
Do you ever give other people power over your Feelings?
YES!  I Unfortunately Have Wasted 3 Days With Hurt Feelings?
Yes Folks Theresa Has Been At The Pity Party!
(I am waiting for Cindy Beall to come pop my Balloons)

Published in: on October 30, 2008 at 10:09 pm  Comments (10)  

Worship – Not Just For Sundays Anymore @ Heart Reflections

I have noticed lately that a few people are blogging about worship.  I love this topic.  I love music.  I think that the worship part of the church service is so important.  It isn’t the only important part but it is a peice of the puzzle.

I am asking you all to go visit Shane at Heart Reflections.  She has the most beautiful post on Worship today.  My first work in my comment to her was WOW!! 

I really think you will all be blessed by this post.  🙂

Published in: on October 27, 2008 at 9:25 pm  Comments (2)  

O.S.C.A.R. M.A.Y.E.R.

Today an American Icon found my little ole town.  This my friends is why I carry my camera in my purse. 

That is right folks…It’s the WeinerMobile!!!!

 

Published in: on October 25, 2008 at 7:39 pm  Comments (4)  

Honesty Blog

I have been so honored to be included in Heidi‘s list of Honest Weblog Mentions.  Heidi is so very important to me.  I think it is amazing that God can bring people together that have never met but through blogs and phones we can maintain a better relationship then people that see eachother everyday.  Heidi has an amazing gift of being able to translate God’s word to something that can be applied to modern day issues.  Her posts have made me laugh so hard that I was scared I would pee my pants.  At other times her post have hit so close to home or explained something so beautifully that it has made me wash me cheeks with tears.  I love this woman and if you don’t read her I would recommend you head on over there and click through her archives.  Heidi is true, genuine, real and beautiful.  I love you Lady!!

  

Now I get to pass on the kind words to other sisters, girlfriends and whom are also bloggers, which I’m thrilled about doing! but

I need to follow these simple rules first because Heidi said so.

“When you receive the prize you must write a post showing it, together with the name of who has given it to you, and link them back.

Choose a minimum of 7 blogs (or more) that you find brilliant in their content or design. Show their names and links and leave them a comment informing they were prized with ‘Honest Weblog’.

List [if you can and/or dare] at least ten honest things about yourself. And then, pass it on.”

My Honest Weblog mentions go to…

Stonefox aka Heidi

Shane-Heart Reflections

Roxanne Kristina

Theresa-His Life for Mine

Starr…like in the sky

Deleise Overcome

Many Meadows (Whoever feels like doing it)

I love all these blogs for different reasons.  Some make me laugh, Some make me cry but most of all they all are very supportive.  They all are the first to say to me “Hey I am not perfect!  Quit being so hard on yourself!”  I get great counsel from these woman.  I have also been enjoying watching some of them grow both in Christ and as Parents. 

There is a bigger list of blogging friends, mentors and amazing woman that I didn’t list because they were already on other’s lists or I don’t know them well enough to think they would respond.  So I have to mention Cindy Beall, Hope Jammes, Mandy Thompson, Rachel Rowell, Alece, Sarah Markley and Lisa Leonard.

10 honest things about me

1.  I smoked cigarettes for 20 years and quit cold turkey 6 years ago.

2.  Most of the time I think my Kids deserve a better Mother.

3.  I don’t drink coffee.

4.  I speak my mind and that gets me in trouble sometimes.

5.  I am better at encouraging others than I am at taking encouragement. 

6.  I love giving gifts to people I love.

7.  I am loyal.

8.  I am insecure.

9.  I love doing all aspects of Payroll.

10.  I love traveling to places I have never been.

Published in: on October 23, 2008 at 11:00 pm  Comments (10)  

It has been over 6 Months

As most of you know, I have been losing weight this year.  At the last update I had lost 40 pounds by my 40th birthday.  I have still been counting points and going to my Weight Watchers meetings but I have also been trying to just hold steady.  I still have another 16 pounds to lose to reach my goal.  I am also getting on a plane to Hawaii in about 10 days.  When I get back from Hawaii I am going to tackle the 16 pounds.

I go to weigh-ins on Wednesday afternoons and a new week starts Thursday mornings.  So I usually claim Wednesday night dinner as a free be.  So can you guess what I had for dinner….Yep I had a BIG MAC!!!  It was AMAZING!!  I haven’t had one for over 6 months.  It was worth every single one of the 13 points. 

I know that some of you have seen the email earlier in the week but it has been awhile since I update the rest of you.  So here I am total weight-loss of 44 pounds and I had my hair cut off.  I am also 4 pant sizes smaller but I refuse to buy clothes until I need winter clothes.  🙂 

Published in: on October 22, 2008 at 10:07 pm  Comments (6)